The Other Woman's Milkshake>Kelis'

Twitter is at it again. First, it made rapper Asher Roth seem like a racist douche nozzle, then it caused legal woes for baseball legend Tony La Russa, now it's helping R&B singer Kelis spread her message of anti-cheating, at the expense of her soon-to-be ex hubby/rapper Nasir "NaS" Jones.

Actually, this has nothing to do with Twitter; that's like the dude's on "Cheaters" who blame Joey Greco for bringing the wife to the other woman's jacuzzi party, only to catch her man on the down stroke of another chick's upside. Twitter was as much an innocent bystander to the melodrama as the couple's unborn son.

Simply put, the pair fell victim to statistics. Most couples do, so there's no reason fame & "fortune" would exclude them from the club. I've heard that it had to do with a sex tape Kelis had floating around, but that's never been proven, per se. If anyone has it though, please provide link, for research & things. I've also heard that NaS cheated, which I can totally believe. That's one of the things men do; cheat, move heavy furniture & kill spiders.

Kelis' tweet was something to the effect of "I hate cheaters", or "I hate the sluts who participate", but whatever it was, the thousands of folks that read it got her insinuation. Hell hath no fury like a (black) woman scorned. I can read between the lines, it really said "Yeah, that n*gga cheated, & I'm tellin' all y'all he ain't sh*t!" If it weren't for Twitter, that kind of banter would have only been heard by her numerous, manless gf's, before making it's way into the Globe or Page Six or her next song. Now, society is so "plugged-in", that all she had to do was type less than 145 characters to put all of their business on Front Street. Bet she wouldn't have done that if she was married to Chris Brown. Milkshakes in the emergency room, indeed.

I never have understood the whole marriage thing. On many levels, it appears to be as pointless as it is beneficial & I assume there was an aspect of actual love at one point in history, but now, it just seems like a good business deal. Tax-wise, health insurance purposes, minimizing living expenses, in-house sex, round-the-clock child supervision; at first glance it's a veritable win-win. Throw love & respect in the mix & the phrase "happily ever after" just materializes on it's own. Problem is, people do it for the wrong reasons, then sit perplexed when it all falls down.

Sans any corniness, I got married out of love, & assuming my wife did the same, this could very well be why our almost 7 year marriage is still in full swing. Now, don't get me wrong, we've had our share of ups 'n' downs. & I've done my share of really, really stupid things, but I was a different, less compassionate person those many years ago. I've long since cleaned up my act, & the fact that she rode that rollercoaster with me is a testimony to her feelings regarding me. I can't rightly speak for her, but the fact that I've never gotten cut or caught hot grits to the face says we have a pretty solid marriage, built on a stern foundation. As opposed to just getting hitched for our son's sake.

The fact that NaS & Kelis were married for almost two years before she became pregnant dispels the "married for our kid" mantra. They had some time to learn each other's personas, with breastfeeding or diaper changing interruptions. I also heard they dated for quite awhile before the wedding, as opposed to meeting at the club & (him) moving in (to her aaprtment), like the story usually goes. I was surprised too; I thought "dating" was just for White folks nowadays.

You'd have to figure, NaS is approaching mid-30's. This is usually around the time where a dude has had all his fun, broad-wise. Now would be the time to enjoy the spoils of conquest. Been there, done that, as they say. Its not like Kelis is a bad looking lady, although the grass is always greener, especially if you continue to look over the fence, without watering your own. Realistically, NaS probably has more than enough groupies willing to drop trou at a moments notice, but so do I. So, there's no excuse for how strong the weakness of the flesh is.

More importantly, in the grand scheme, it's not that serious. A sack toss, that couldn't have lasted all that long, unless he's like Diddy, caused all this commotion in his life. Now, the rhetorical question of the day; Was it worth it? Maybe it was to him, but to me, only few things can bring the level of happiness that a family can. Plus, it's going to be real embarrasing when NaS tells his son that his parents divorced because he couldn't turn down some trim.

I'm just saying. If you're going to go through all the trouble, might as well make the most out of it. Life is too short to make commitments to people (& God) that you either can't or won't keep. True, none of us are perfect, but we all want happiness. Said happiness is closer than you think. Usually, to get it, you have to sacrifice something. That's kind of how God designed the whole gratification thing.

Good luck.

*Editor's note: Sorry for the lack of Milkshake jokes....*